I’m reblogging this as comments aren’t allowed (for obvious reasons) on the original. And I’ve not “re-blogged” before so I have no idea if this will even work…
But I just wanted to say that while I understand and sympathise with what witchwind, I feel that she’s taken on more of a psychological burden than is really fair. How much should one be responsible for the comments or posts on one’s blog? While obviously a certain amount of moderation is required to stop the abusive and blatantly trolling comments ever making it to the screen, I don’t personally feel it should go much beyond that.
Obviously a woman will feel protective towards her own blog as if it’s her own personal space, that it needs to be kept on topic and managed correctly. But really I feel that strict level of control only really needs to be applied to her own posts, not to the comments. I think it’s taken as read (or should be) that the comments other people post don’t necessarily reflect the views of the blog owner, nor should the decision to allow those comments through be taken as a sign of endorsement.
I think it’s a reasonable attitude to take to essentially consider the comments to be an open forum to allow people to discuss your posts and to not feel too responsible for what is said there, nor feel too strong an urge to control or shape the tone of the comments. Yes, weed out the trolling and baiting and abuse, but no more than that is really needed.
Of course this is just my opinion. And I admit that even moderating to only that degree may well be quite time-consuming if many comments are made, but I think relinquishing any feeling of personal responsibility for the opinions of others should result in it being a lot less emotionally draining.
(and for the record the discussion on the blog post in question was immensely stimulating and of great interest).
I didn’t take the time to explain why I closed comments at the time I did. This is what I’m going to do now, as I now have a bit more time at hand.
The irony is that what made me take my decision to close comments isn’t directly because of the trolling, threats and MRA hits although it was an absolutely terrifying moment and I almost did close comments as a result; but because comments were beginning to work. I closed comments at a time where conversations were actually becoming very interesting, and the last few ones were the most interesting discussions ever held on this blog so far. Once the threats abated and the trolls decided I wasn’t their pet target any more, I expected to feel relieved and better, but I didn’t. There’s something inherently wrong with modding.
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